Make time

You all know about making time for yourself right? A lot of the times social media would always shows about how great it would be to have some time of your own where you could sit back and meditate, reflect or just lose your mind in wonderland.
 However, as we are growimg up, we will start to relise that we dont have enough time. Like when we were still studying in schools, we would also get the feeling of not having enough time to complete all of the assignments. But this time, it is more of not having the time to do what we want to do.

It is very different from what we have to do, like: buy groceries, washing the landuries, going on dates and buying the necessities. It is more of having a walk at the park, doing yoga, going to the beach and holiday travel.

It is about enjoying the moments as who you are without the fear of having to be cautious of what you are doing, how you present yourself and how you handle the situation.

Why we didnt have enough time as we grow? There are actually a few reasons to it.

1) Our full time jobs.
When your are working as a full time, most of the time in your day would be spending in the work place. You could spent up to 9 hours in the day just because you are working. If you are a retail sales person, there is a chance for you to stay up to 12 hours per day. (Excluding the extra few hours or minutes that you still have to do to finish your work.)

2) Procrastination
When you are working, there is a very high chance of you procrastinate, especially when you are working in the office. You would tend to do other things that you are not surpose to do just so that you could avoid doing things that are ment to be done. It is really common, and it is also the reason that you would ended up not having time to finish anything. Which will also lead to not having time for yourself.

3) Unknown events
As you are getting to work, there is always that 1-2 hours of you getting to your work place, for example would be that you got up, brush your teeths, get dress, board the train and head to work. There will always be time when the train would delay, would crush, would be too pack and missing the train. This are the times when you would be wasting those time waiting for things that is not in your sechdule. Result in you not finishing your work and ended up of not having enough time for yourself.

So, wanting to make time for yourself, it is acutally really easy. If you are a office person, just make sure that you make a plan of what work you need to finish for the week and what other things you need to do by that week. Once you make out that plan, see if everything can be fit in your sechdule. Once everything fits, all you have to do is plan your alone time. Make plans to go to the park or even the cafe to hang out with friends, have a nice long dinner with your family or even plan to do thing alone. ( Click here to see what can be done alone.)

When you only have 2 days off (for office jobs) or 1 day off (for retail jobs), it is only when you make plans and make it work, then you would have time for yourself.

Enjoy your day off ^_^

Growing up

Nowadays, a lot of people have no idea what they want to do with their life. Just like me, after graduating, I have no idea what to do with my life. The diploma that I have received is just a piece of paper and the course that I choose that time is just a course that I choose at that time because I thought I would have an easier life in the future. But who would have thought that in the middle, I just lost interest.

Now, let me tell you, a lot of people would have the same problem. Some of them, would just go back and study courses that they have interest in. Is like just restarting the interest that they have and then find the job that they are interested in. But most of the other people would go and find job that they could find at the moment and just continue living their life. It is all part of growing up.

What your parents told I you when you were young have a lot of impact in a kids growth. I believe many of us are the same. When we were young, our parents would compare us with other kids, they would tell you that when you grow up, you have to find a stable job, studying hard and graduate from a university is the only way to do so. But, a lot of parents didn’t know that that is not the only way how a life should be. So, trust me, growing up is something that make us realize that what parents said, not all are true.

There are a few things about growing up, it is about finding what you wants to do, what you like to do and what you dream of doing.

1)what you want to do
This is something that a lot of us don’t know about. Most of us would just eat, sleep and do what we do everyday. Working, studying or daydreaming. Know what you want to do is really important because it will help you build the road towards a future that you have dream of, or it will lead you to the dream job that you would enjoy working for the rest of your working life.

2)what you like to do
This is something that you would enjoy doing even if you are tried from the day. Simply to say, it is your hobby. Something that you would do whenever you have free time. Something that you would wish to do when you were just dreaming about it. Knowing what you like to do is something that might affect your choice of job or your entire lifestyle (if your job is related to what you like to do).

3) what you dream of doing
Just as the words says, it is something that you have passion for, something that is like your childhood dream or something that you really wants to do. It is different from what the other two are, but yet, it is quite similar. What you dream of doing is like a stepping stone in your road to success. You would work your hardest to achieve the final result and you would keep working hard for it.

So, there you have it, this is just the first part about growing up. As you grow up, you will notice that things are not the same as you have imagine. But, keep growing!! ^_^

Traveling alone

Ok, right now, i am at the age where i could travel with parents or guardians. And thanks to that, i decided to travel alone for a change.

People have always tell me that travelling alone would be very dangerous as there is no one in the country that you would know if you went to a foreign country. So, here are some personal tips on travelling alone.

1) Booking plane tickets and finding hotels.

My personal favourite website that allows me to do both at once, is www.expedia.com. You could book plane tickets and hotels at better deals and it will remind you when you are about to fly off. I would also highly recommend that you download the app from google play or apply app store. Trust me, it is really useful and gives you information required without the hazel of going to your e-mail or website itinerary to find out information require for it. 

Another great website to book for both is http://www.orbitz.com.  

This website will be more towards savings for hotel rooms. So, if you were to just book plane tickets there, the website and me would definitely recommend you to book the hotels too.

2) Plane tickets.

When booking plane tickets online, you will not get and actual plane ticket mailed to your post box. And if you were to actually book from websites that gives you special deals, they would not event tell you about your e-ticket number from the e-mail that they send you. So, it is really important that once you have paid for your tickets and rooms, an e-mail is sent to you, you really would have to saved the email or itinerary and print it out for you flight day.
Nowadays, most of the plane company would be able to check-in online 2 and 1/2 days earlier using their app or the website.
However, there are also some cases where you will not be allowed to check-in via online. If that happen, you would have to go to the airport, for the flight company that your plane is operated by in the fast check-in counter to get your plane ticket. Then, you go to the check-in area and look out for the plane that you are going to fly indicated at the plane ticket. From there, you will know which gate to enter as sometimes, some of the plane ticket will not indicate the gate number on it.
After everything is checked and done, just sit back, relax and wait for your turn to enter the plane.

3) Hotel booking and staying.
There are lots of websites that would indicate saying that they are the lowest in town or stuff like that. So, it is really important to find one that allows you compare the price in one website. My personal favourite is www.trivago.com. Reason is that they will compare from a few websites and will show you the deal one. And if you are not satisfied with the one they recommend, you could go to all of the websites they compared from and choose one there. You could also filter what you need and what you would want from the hotel which is something that a lot of the other websites couldn't do. Most of the websites would require you to enter the selected hotel page to see what they offer. So this website would definitely save time in choosing the hotel.
When you reach the hotel, there are 2 ways to get your reversed room. First is tell them the name that you put the reservation on, the other would be to show them the printout of the confirmation e-mail to them.

4) Personal belongings.
I know that personal belongs are really important. So, it is important that you bring them with you. Such items are passport, identification cards (i.c), cash/cards and phones/tablets. So, it is recommended that you bring along a small bag with you when travelling so that you could keep those items near you. Also, if you choose to bring a backpack, it is wise that you pick one that have brackets. And if you were to bring a sling bag, it is wiser to wear it under a jacket, this way, it is much safer compare it with striping it on the outside.
Now, when you are staying on a hotel, it is better that you would keep important stuffs in a safe (provided that there is one). If not, you could just hang the "do not disturb" sign on the outside while you went out for your trip. This will make sure that there is a high chance that your items and room will not be touched (it is a good alternative for people who don't mind their room to be a mess).

5) Planing of trip.
I would say that it is best to plan your trip before hand definitely before you book your hotel room. When it comes to planing trips, it is a nice idea to do research on blogs or forums or travel websites to get the idea of what travellers can do on the area or country. Then, decide on which part of it that you are more likely to go and visit. After doing so, then you go and look for hotels near there and find the one most convenient to you. You wouldn't want to run everywhere on taxi because your hotel is no where near where you want to go, then you would just regret and waste the money for something so troublesome.
You really have to bear in mind that you travelling is to enjoy yourself and not make you stress or tried (unless you are there for business trips).

6) Amount of money needed.
A lot of people have the problem of not bring enough money or way too much money when they travel. So, it is really important to find out how much money you might spent that is unavoidable and how much you would like to spend also how much you will keep as spare.
Those unavoidable expanses would be the travelling fee, entrance fee and meals. Try to find out as much as possible about those fees would cost you. Go and read about them from web pages and blogs regarding the amount then plan a slightly higher amount so that it would be much safer.
Also, when it comes changing currencies, i would suggest that avoiding all the tourist attraction money changer, big and expensive shopping mall money changer. Instead, it is actually good to good to change at the airport (especially Singapore Changi airport). The rates there might be better then those places. Also, it would be great to check if the day that you are changing have a higher rate than other days, this way, you will save more and enjoy more.

being alone

remember about the article that i have posted saying that there are activities that can only be done when u are alone?

well here is one article that says that being alone, 10 things would happen.

so, here is the article:

When You Start to Enjoy Being Alone, These 10 Things Will Happen

1. You’ll get to recharge.

Often times when we’re surrounded by other people, we’re expending a lot of energy. Trying to keep others happy, make them laugh, soothe their egos, read their emotions, and all of the other rigors that come along with regular interaction.

It can be mentally draining if you’re constantly connected to other people. A little alone time lets you recharge and take a break from the emotionally and mentally taxing job of constant interaction.

2. You’ll reflect more often.

Your life is always moving at a crazy fast pace. So fast in fact, that it’s probably rare when you have a moment alone to sit and reflect on your life.

Being alone gives you the perfect opportunity for a little self reflection. Since you aren’t spending so much time processing the thoughts and feelings of others, it’s the best time to turn your focus inwards.

Solitude provides the perfect environment for reflection.

3. You’ll get in touch with your own emotions.

Again, when you’re surrounded by other people all the time, you’re constantly trying to read, and cater to, the other persons’s emotions. So much so, that you could end up losing touch with your own.

When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll gain a greater perspective for your own emotions. You’ll create a deeper understanding of what makes you happy, what upsets you, and what saddens you.

With that knowledge, it’s then easier to regulate your emotions. But it all starts with understanding how you feel, and that comes from a little bit of solitude.

4. You’ll start doing things you actually enjoy.

When you’re constantly in the company of other people, you’re always making compromises in order to find solutions that the entire group can enjoy. And unfortunately, the things you want most, may not always line up with what the group wants.

So it’s easy to enjoy being alone once you realize that doing so gives you more freedom to do the things you actually want to do.

5. You’ll become more productive.

Being in the company of other people can be fun and entertaining, but it can also seriously affect your productivity. There are times when the company of other people acts as nothing more than a distraction from getting your work done.

Time spent alone can be some of the most productive time in your life—mostly because there are less distractions, and you can just put your head down and get to work.

6. You’ll enjoy your relationships even more.

When you spend time alone on a regular basis, and eventually start to enjoy being alone, you’ll come to find that you also enjoy your relationships with other people even more.

And that’s because the time spent alone gives you a greater appreciation for yourself.

But it also let’s you appreciate all the great things that come from your relationships with other people, most of which you were oblivious to before.

7. You’ll feel more independent.

Once you enjoy being alone, you’ll feel more confident in your ability to actually be alone. And that naturally leads to you feeling more independent.

You’ll no longer feel that anxiety, or burning desire for company, once you learn to enjoy being alone. You won’t feel the need for constant interaction with other people, or the anxiety associated with looking around and seeing no one but yourself.

8. You’ll get a break from constantly trying to keep other people happy.

Life is filled with relationships, and most relationships only last when both people are kept happy. And that can turn into a draining job depending who that relationship is with. Now, this does’t only apply to personal relationships, but every kind of relationship.

Once you’re alone, the only person’s happiness you have to worry about in that moment, is your own. You can treat yourself to thing that makes you happy, but may have upset someone else.

9. You won’t have to apologize for anything.

When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll quickly see that solitude means you don’t have to keep apologizing for what you’ve done. So often, we do things that end up upsetting other people, or hurting someone else’s feelings, and then have to quickly apologize for it.

But when you’re alone, you don’t have to apologize for anything. And that takes a lot of pressure out of most situations. You get to stop second guessing everything you say, or every move you make because you’re afraid someone is going to be offended, or saddened, and angered.

10. You’ll stop looking for validation.

So often we feel we the need to get the “OK” from our friends and family before we take action. We constantly look to other people for advice on what we should do next.

Of course, there are times where it’s not only perfectly acceptable to ask for advice, but downright necessary. But there are also times where we’re perfectly capable of acting on our own, be we instead of looking to others for an answer.

When you start to spend more time alone, you’ll learn to trust your instincts and make decisions without any third party validation.

so, do u agree to this?
well sometimes it is better to believe in yourself than in what the internet is say


credit:
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/when-you-start-enjoy-being-alone-these-10-things-will-happen.html
TONY ROBINSON

turning adult

everyone know something about turning into an adult right...
like going through puberty, rebellious age or just getting a large number of candles on your birthday cake.

well here is an article that shows that turning into an adult isn't so great:

15 Ways That Turning Into An Adult Is Not All That It's Cracked Up To Be

1. Your pet situation

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Expectation: You'll finally have the house full of puppies and kittens and ponies that you've always wanted.

Reality: Anything that requires more care than a houseplant seems a little overwhelming right now.

2. Your sleep schedule

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Expectation: You'll stay up super late every night and forget that the word "bedtime" ever existed.

Reality: Being in bed by 10:00 sounds like actual heaven.

3. Your diet

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Expectation: Nobody can stop you from having ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

Reality: This is true, but so is the crippling regret that comes after trying it once.

4. Your employment situation

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Expectation: You'll never settle for anything less than the fun, high-paying job of your dreams.

Reality: You're hoping that your unpaid internship leaves you with enough time to keep your weekend fast food job.

5. Your living situation

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Expectation: You'll have an awesome house that you can decorate any way you want.

Reality: You have an apartment that's slightly bigger than your body... if you can afford to move out of your parents' house.

6. Your love life

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straightwhiteboystexting.tumblr.comExpectation: Finding your mature, good-looking soulmate will be easy now that you're both grown up.

Reality: Being single forever is starting to not sound so terrible after all.

7. Your culinary skills

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funnyjunk.comExpectation: You'll be able to make all your favorite foods whenever you want.

Reality: This is much harder than Mom made it look.

8. Your relationship with your parents

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goodreads.comExpectation: You'll finally be free from the controlling clutches of your parents.

Reality: Getting a call or a visit from Mom and Dad makes your whole day better... especially when you need their advice.

9. Your financial situation

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celebquote.comExpectation: You'll have your own money to spend on whatever you please.

Reality: You dream of a day where you'll have money left over after paying for groceries, rent, and bills.

10. Your peers

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iscreamsundae.comExpectation: You'll finally be surrounded by mature, responsible people just like you.

Reality: Most adults are just old children with more freedom and body hair.

11. Your responsibilities

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netmeister.orgExpectation: You'll finally be free from all the work you had to do in school.

Reality: You realize it was nothing in comparison to the work/school/life load that you have now.

12. Your ability to multitask

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giphy.comExpectation: Running errands and doing chores will be easy and make you feel more "adult-like."

Reality: Your parents definitely have superpowers that they did not pass on to you.

13. Your wardrobe

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funnyjunk.comExpectation: Your fashion sense will be the envy of other adults who wish they could look as put-together as you.

Reality: You would sacrifice your left arm to be able to wear sweatpants to work.

14. Your coolness

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misscinemafanatic.tumblr.comExpectation: You will refuse to be the lame-o that can't keep up with new technology or slang.

Reality: People are throwing around words like "Twitter" and "swag" and quite frankly it's all a bit overwhelming.

15. Your adjustment to it all

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globalgrind.comExpectation: Turning 18 will grant you instant knowledge of everything you need to know about becoming a grown-up.

Reality: Neither you nor anyone else has any idea of what's going on or what you should do.

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Averi Clements
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